meeting standards

I've been reading a book titled stop being a nice guy
as funny it might have sounded, there are tons of good
suggestions to me ... because I really do think I am one of
those nice guys who always put what people think of me ahead
of what I really think of myself ... or what I really like myself

which I believe in reality, most people do

it seems also that I tend to seek approval or validations
from other people to confirm my worth as well

and my world and goals of life is not really self-centered either
they all seem to have been constructed in a way to be able
to meet a certain standard type of person

I am forgetting about what I really love and what I really like to do
what I really love to achieve and what I really need

From my childhood, my mom has always been a figure who
try to take control over my sister's and my life
she gives so many opinions and limits to us of what we
can really become and what we really need to do in life

but the fact is she is neither really supportive and concerned
about what we really need and what talents we really do have
she just seems to put us into a spot where general society can
recognize us as a successful person

but the fact by the end of your life, who exactly can really tell
you in the face that you have been successful ?

and wouldn't it be just sad that you have achieved so many goals in life
but none of them is what you really desire

happy

I think those who are happy
are the true winner of life

thoughts

there are just too many thoughts and things happened
I really want to note down for future observations

I've been really different from I used to be I guess
the routine of my life seems to have totally changed
the time I stayed on msn now sometimes even dropped
to 0 mins in one day, I am increasing a lot of time I hang
out with the people I know,talk to them, get to know them
better, go to places and events together etc.

It is a really major shift in my life and I've also reading
books about communication and psychology-related
human relationships. I've been reading a lot .. this
never happens in the last 2 years or even 3

over the holiday, I read 2 books, one is about why
people fail to accomplish what they would love to do
the other one is the autobiography of rodney mullen

there are both so good and interesting
I feel myself a bit like rodney mullen at times
who is always doing their own things and socially
disconnected from other people. considering it is just
a bit waste of time not executing tasks we wanna do
each day. rodney talked about he even wanted to kill
himself while he was in Norway for some reason and
he has implied in many places that he thinkgs himself as
a skateboarding nerd without social skills

I really took some thought into this
I was rethinking about the meaning and value
behind spending time with people and developing
social skills. I do think social skills are important
sometimes very important, you get to know so many
things through people who live in different places, you
share the passion about one thing and values

I've been reading about meeting girls too
cause it just seems to me that most of the people
just meet those people who are around them or
they happen to get to know by chances, even when
they chose their partners and friends

I feel that is really boring way to meet people
if you want to meet someone why can't we just
approach to them and meet them ? I think most
of us don't really have skills to do that and they
let chances pass by, chances to meet people who
they might enjoy so much hanging out with

the reason I think is because people are afraid of
others opinions about themselves, are afraid of
rejections, are afraid of embarrassments etc.

take this concept from Vice magazine
I think it is very interesting, it sounds a bit way
too simple, it is very true though in many ways :

---- -- -- -- -- -- -- -- -- --
" there are only kinds of girls in the world
those that " can do " and those that " won't do "
and you should keep having fun with those
who " can do " , those who "won't do " you just
need to keep them out of your life
-- -- -- -- -- -- -- -- -- -- --

people who wanna have fun with you they ultimately
will have fun with you

it's hard to fully satisfy with the way you are
because you can always improve to the way you want
but we should all the true bright color in ourselves
there are people who can see and value it too



I read only few pages of the books about meeting
girls for now , and not so much of the book about
human communications

I wanna get Tony Hawk's autobiography